Top Tips for Grooming your Wedding Guest List

Deciding who to invite to your wedding is fun, and a challenge. Don’t tear your hair out or getting into rock ‘em sock ‘em fights with your partner or parents about it. Get organized instead.
Following these Top Tips will help you have the guests you want and stick to your budget.
1. Prioritize your list Right from the start, make yourself a list with three columns for different types of guests: Family, Friends, Frills. Use it to write down who you would want to invite if your budget were limitless and the venue enormous. 
In the Family column, put close family first, and more distant relatives below. In the Friends column, list the friends you really want to be there. And in the Frills column, list anyone else, such as colleagues, co-workers and neighbours, who you would like to include if your budget stretches that far, but who aren’t vital for your happiness. 

2. Check it twice, then edit it down Add up the numbers, then think again about who of these people you want to invite, wh…

Ten Favourite Wedding Readings

Readings at a wedding ceremony can add a wonderful special personal touch to your wedding. They can reflect who you are, set the mood of the ceremony and give family members or friends a chance to play an active role in the occasion.
For inspiration with selecting the reading or readings that are right for you, here are Ten Favourite wedding readings, as chosen by the hundreds of couples whose weddings I have officiated.
For each I’ve included an excerpt from the poem to give you a taste
1. Gifts from the Sea by Anne Morrow LindberghFor the couple who love natural imagery of the sea  “Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.”

2. from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis de BernieresFor the couple who love images of trees “Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away…roots that grow towards each other unde…

Will you marry me?

Calling all about-to-get engaged couples
December is high season for proposals. If you’ve been together a while and have even vaguely begun to think about getting married, or are ready to make your proposal, here are some things to think about so that the proposal is perfect for you and your partner.

Make it a moment that shines and is a fabulous memory ever after.

1. When will you propose? The two most popular dates for proposing are both in December: Christmas Eve and New Year’s Eve. It’s understandable, seeing that is when most people are with be with family or close friends, and a proposal adds immensely to the festive and celebratory occasion.

More important, is there a date that’s significant to the two of you – her birthday, his birthday, the anniversary of your first date, the date you moved in together?
If so, that’s the date to make the proposal.
2. Do you want the proposal to be a total surprise?

The majority of proposals are a total surprise to the person being proposed t…


Hooray! You've just got engaged! Now what?
There is no other feeling in the world like the feeling that you’ve just got engaged to the person you love most in all the world. You’re on Cloud 9, actually Cloud 999. You feel you might just burst with the joy and the excitement. Here are 10 fun things and one practical thing to do in those first moments and days.

1. THE MOMENT Savour the moment with each other before rushing to tell your family and friends. It’s a mini version of the wonderful Jewish custom of Yichud, where the newly-weds share a few minutes together right after the ceremony before going to join their guests in a receiving line or other celebration. It’s a way of treasuring and marking that intense moment and the emotions of love and excitement it brings.

2.THE ENGAGEMENT CELEBRATION DATE Go on a date that very day or night, or as soon as possible to your favourite restaurant, place, event or activity or even have a weekend away just the two of you, to savour being f…

10 Tips for Creating Good Karma at your Wedding

Everyone wants to have good karma at their wedding and for their marriage! Here are some tips from couples I have worked with and from my own experience, to help spread the good vibes.
1. Remember that you are not the centre of the universe  even though it is your wedding! A lot of people are involved in making your day fabulous. They all have busy lives and are finding time to do things for you and to support you. Appreciate their efforts and don’t make unrealistic demands. Don’t be like the bride who expected her friends and relations to cancel romantic dates and travel plans – and was very angry when they didn’t - so they could help her wrap wedding cake slices
2.  Be generous – but no need to be extravagant unless your budget stretches to it -  when it comes to helping people, especially vendors, with transport to the location of your wedding, or local accommodation if the venue is very far from where they live. They are making the effort of expertise, time and money to be there for…